Unless you blog, I don't think you can truly understand the pressures it can have on a persons life. We all love it and that is why we continue to do it, but that doesn't take away from the fact that it's pretty hard work, especially if you are a perfectionist. 

Coat - Allsaints 
Khaki Shirt - H&M
Ripped Jeans - H&M
Western Buckle Boots - Dorothy Perkins
Choker - Zara 
Bag - Diesel


There are many factors we have to take into consideration during our everyday lives, to name just a few: 

Phone Battery


My charger is with me all day every day. My mom is incredibly judgemental about it, but then again she only uses her phone to make calls and send important texts, like that's even a thing anymore. 


You need a fully charged phone for the spontaneous moment you spot the perfect sunset, or your lunch looks particularly appealing as you eat a la carte. And you can't forget every single time you have prosecco and strawbs.





Outfits


Gone are the days of just throwing on jeans and a sweatshirt to run some errands. You need to get DONE UP. Every outing is an opportunity for blog content, and if it doesn't make the cut for Ripped Glam, it's good enough for the gram at least. I can't be displaying the same outfits over and over again, it needs to be fresh and new, people.





Make Up


Very similar to the outfits, unless it's a 'no make up' make up look, I can't be going out barefaced. I do not have the confidence to photograph myself that way just yet, but I need content so therefore my face must always be beat. 





Food


When I go out for a meal I have to be conscious of what I order as it's got to look insta worthy. We all know promoting food envy is the best way to get likes. 





Lighting and Angles


It's easy to get your angles right when taking selfies, but when you have pictures taken of you it's so much harder as you can't see what is going on and what you look like. So, not only do you have to work out your right angles in front of a camera, but also make sure you get the right lighting. You can't go out for a shoot when sunrise is due in half an hour, and nothing beats the natural sunlight when it hits you and makes your skin glow and your highlighter pop.





Grooming


Every girl loves winter because it means grooming pretty much goes out the window. Your hair grows less and you don't have to worry about shaving your legs. But as a blogger you don't get that luxury. You have to camera ready 24/7! That means legs and armpits always have to shaved, my hair always needs to be neat and my nails always need to be done. A camera picks up things that a naked eye could never spot, and beady eyes on the internet don't miss a trick. 





Perfecting the perfect 'candid'  


We all know those pictures we see of those gorgeous girls on Instagram aren't real, and actually whatever they are laughing at wasn't that funny. The reason I know that is because if they are anything like me, the funnier something is the uglier my laughing face gets. So mastering that look is near impossible. You have to time it right so your skin is glistening in the sun, your face is tilted at just the right angle to disguise your double chin, your mouth is parted slightly to make it look like you aren't posing. It's hard af. If anyone has posted a YouTube video on how to take the most perfect candid lemme know please. 





Reading those you might not think it's an issue at all, and individually they aren't but let me just break down a little scenario for you, that I'm sure we have all experienced at some point in our blogging lives.


It's Friday afternoon, you clock off at 4pm so you're sitting there counting down the minutes. 3:57pm, you immediately start logging off and packing up your belongings. The phones are ringing, clients are wandering in and out in and your colleagues are battling the phones in the background but you don't care 'cause you're outta there in 3. 


You're praying the person on the other end of the phone isn't returning your left messages before you get out the door and then you hear it... "Sorry Dionne, I know you're on your way out, but I have Mrs Jones here to see you." 


Fucking Mrs Jones. 


So you sit there for 10 minutes watching the sun slowly melt behind the clouds and your chances of the perfect outfit shot go with it, whilst Mrs Jones blabbers on about something completely irrelevant as she blocks your way to freedom. 


You manage to make it out alive and begin the mad dash of finding the perfect outfit and doing a full face of instagrammable makeup. Then you're out the door leaving your bedroom looking as though a bomb has hit it. 


If you're organised you will have already planned the location in which your photo shoot will take place. So, you check your weather app and find rain is due in about half hour, time to get down to business. 


You do your poses in the middle of the street, stopping occasionally as cars and onlookers pass you by. But you come away thinking what a bloody good job I have done there. I cant wait to look through those.


You get home, open up your laptop and load the pictures only to find that... Your zipper was flying low or your hair had a kink in it. 


No. Pain. Like. It. 





Happy Autumn everybody! There is no purpose to this post other than to share my love and admiration for this season. I know we all love it. The burgundy hues, the pumpkin spiced lattes, the joy we get when we get to use the word 'autumnal and not to mention the perfect Insta shot of your Ugg boots standing in a pile of leaves . 

There are endless reasons to love Autumn and everyone just seems so much happier when we reach this point of the year sharing their pictures on Facebook of pumpkins and candles. 




​It does hit us quite quickly as the nights start to draw in earlier and earlier, but with each night that passes Christmas is another day closer so for every negative, there are no doubt plenty of positives.




Before the cold weather hits us, in the UK we have this brief transitional period in September where we experience all the Autumnal feels but still enjoy the sunshine. This means it is the perfect​ opportunity to wear those outfits that you have pinned of girls wandering the streets of Manhattan in their dresses and big coats or a line skirts and polar necks. We wouldn't dream of wearing those kind of outfits without tights gone September. 

That is why, collectively, it is very important we make the most of this 2 week slot. To utilise our wardrobes to the fullest, to say farewell to Summer and to transition ourselves into the colder days. 




 With that being said, I have chosen to take full advantage of it this year and I'll tell you why.

 Last year I spotted Hayley Baldwin in one of the chicest outfits I had seen all year. It was simple, cosy, oversized, on trend - just everything you would want from an outfit and more and I knew I had to have it. I went shopping the following day and by chance managed to locate all the items that I didn't already have to recreate this look. The fact that they were all in one store already tells me this was fate. 




 However, since that day I have never really had the perfect opportunity to wear this outfit. Don't get me wrong, I have worn it, but it's been combined with a scarf or tights because the weather would not permit. I've even worn it when the sun was out, but boy did I regret that. I had a natural highlight going on (aka sweat.) 

But this is it. These weeks of September are where I can debut it in all its glory, and that I did. 


Oversized Knit Jumper - Zara 
Brown Over The Knee Boots - Zara 
Camel Waterfall Coat - Pretty Little Thing












What are some of your favourite transitional outfits?
You usually hear this phrase batted around by your male friends when they're bantering about their missus, as they do! But women don't tend to refer to men in that way, as I think we all know we'd do fine without the male species #GirlPower. 

No, the love/hate relationship women have is with Make Up. 





I love make up with every fibre of my being. It gives me a confidence boost that I could never get from anything or anyone else and it gives me the capability to improve every aspect of my face; I can have a flawless complexion, chiseled cheeks, bigger brows and longer lashes all with the sweep of a brush.

Spending time on my makeup is something I do daily, and have done for many years now. But I have come to a bit of a crosswords as I am beginning to resent when I miss out on that extra 30 minutes in bed and my skin has started to look really shitty. Only now, after I have invested time and money into my skincare routine, do I actually feel confident to leave the house barefaced. But even that is an absolute rarity.  




Not only does it do wonders for my self esteem, but it's actually really fun. My ABH Modern Renaissance palette is my favourite for creating a variety of looks. If I'm feeling daring, I can go for a bold cut crease, or if I'm after a more subtle look, simple neutral tones are the perfect compliment. The possibilities are truly endless and I'm sure we have all seen over Instagram what spectacles can be created with makeup. We're all modern day Monet's, if you ask me. 

Even though I love experimenting with dramatic looks, there is a time and a place. I don't always want to look completely done up, and more than anything, I wish I had the confidence to go without. I can try to do a 'no make up, make up look' and  always find myself thinking "Oh, I look a bit washed out. Let me add some more blush." Or "My bags are overshadowing my eyes, a little liner will help." And before you know it, my cheeks are contoured and my eyes resemble Amy Whinehouse's. 




With its ever growing popularity, the industry has been completely revolutionised. We now have an influx of Vegan and Cruelty Free products, which I'm sure was completely unheard of 5-10 years ago and influencers such as Huda Beauty are being given opportunities to work on their own cosmetic lines which have been a huge success, all from starting out over on YouTube. I find that so empowering and motivating to see, that regular women just like you and me are able to grow in something they are super passionate about. I love that. 

However, with an increase in popularity, means an increase in new products being released daily from our favourite brands. I have a real love/hate relationship with this. Don't get me wrong, there is no better feeling than when your Beauty Bay parcel arrives, and you open your brand new Instagram worthy palette. But if I was to buy every new palette I fell in love with, I'm fairly certain I'd be declaring bankruptcy by the end of the week. It's impossible to keep up!




Given everything to consider, I still love make up, and I think I always will. It makes me feel like the best version of myself, and that is a feeling I can't compete with. But I think I will try to be more conscious with how much makeup I wear on a daily basis, and maybe try to go without on weekends, unless for an occasion.



What are your thoughts on make up.. Can you live without it?



Dress - Diesel


I know we hear it all the time, but confidence really is key. 

It's something that no one will ever master, but will always continue to learn and grow from and those who lack in confidence should find comfort in knowing that every single one of us has our own insecurities that we may never overcome.  




It's not easy being brave, and it's because we are so used to living in our comfort zones that we never think of leaving them. But why would you? The clue is in the name, it's where you are most comfortable. Where everything is as it seems, no challenges or added pressures, no anxiety and no judgements. Sounds pure bliss. 




It's easy to think that way instead of challenging yourself for not being courageous enough, but once you do get into that mindset it gives you the added motivation to start conquering your fears. There is nothing wrong with living a reserved life, but quite often there is no better feeling than when you take a risk and do something a little out of the ordinary. 



Stepping out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself is exhilarating. For instance, the rush you get when you cut all your hair off and get a surge of likes on Facebook or you apply for that job you've always dreamed of and manage to bag an interview. It's that kind of encouragement we all need to experience every once in a while. 




Fashion is a huge one for me when it comes to playing it safe. I'm always very conscious of what I am wearing and never want to be too 'out there' out of fear of getting judged. There are a lot of looks I have never dared try because I just haven't had the cahoonas or I have attempted once and someone has made a sarcastic comment and it's been sent to the back of my wardrobe never to be seen again. 




Quite fittingly, as I was contemplating writing this post Dia&Co reached out to me. They challenged me to Face My Fears and wear an outfit that I have always wanted to rock but have never had the courage to do so. 

At first I was very apprehensive, my original thought process was that if I don't have the confidence to wear it out and about for one day during my regular life where no one I know will see me, then why on earth would I want to put it on the internet for all to see forever and ever? 

But then I remembered, how can I sit here and talk about overcoming challenges if I'm not willing to do the same. I made this blog to create and inspire and in order to do so I would need to be brave, starting here. 




I am constantly saving images of my favourite looks from Pinterest and Instagram, but I rarely take inspiration from them as I never believe they will look nearly as good on me. But as #LFW has just come to a close (the time of year where everyone debuts their most stylish and original outfits) I couldn't think of a better time to execute this challenge. 

My biggest fashion fear is wearing revealing clothing such as low cut dresses and crop tops etc. I have bought a few outfits that are quite exposing but have never worn them, as I always find an excuse to wear something a bit more conservative. 




I decided to wear a red lip with this look and go all out. I have never had the courage to wear dark lipsticks either as I just never thought they would suit me. I buy plenty, but they sit in my lipstick box gathering dust. But since it is September now and I have all the Autumnal feels it inspired me to mix up my make up game too. 




I realise that these fashion fears don't sound like much when you read them, but to me they're huge and they will differ from person to person. But I can honestly say I am proud of myself for wearing this look out all night (and posting it on the internet) and not giving a damn about what side glances I received, or cheeky comments were made about me, and I think that's progress. 

I hope those of you that read this felt some inspiration to try something new, whether it's as small as wearing a different coloured lipstick or as daring as wearing clashing prints. Fashion gives us the ability to do what we want, and be whoever we want to be. We should always choose to embrace the freedom that none of us need to look the same.



What fashion fears will you be facing?


Being "too busy" is a luxury many of us pretend we have, but in actual fact just use as an excuse to get out of god awful plans. We have all done it, and it's the kind of statement no one can argue with. But it's not always what it seems and the way a person uses the phrase "too busy" can reflect a lot about their personality and what their true intentions are. 

(Warning: Please do not take everything I say seriously, I like to have a laugh)





Coat - Allsaints 
Jumper - Asos
Scarf - River Island 
Jeans - Zara 
Boots - Ugg 

Scenario 

You've been trying to arrange a night out with your estranged friend for months now and nothing ever comes of it. Every time you arrange a date something else comes up.


Excuse
"I'm sorry, I'm just too busy right now to arrange anything." 

Definition

This person has zero intention of arranging anything. Ever. You don't need waste time trying to see them, because if they really wanted to see you it wouldn't be this hard and they would make time. Remember; if someone doesn't want to know you, you don't want to know them first. 


Scenario
The guy you're currently seeing, but also kinda hate, keeps texting you to meet. He's super clingy and over emotional and there's no way you can stand to keep meeting with him. 

Excuse
"I'm just sooo busy with work right now, I don't think I could manage it."  

Definition 

Total fib, but the best excuse to stall time and avoid actually dumping a person. Hopefully they'll eventually get fed up of asking and move on saving you both from a painfully awkward conversation.





Scenario

You're out shopping one weekend strolling from shop to shop until a stranger with a bunch of leaflets makes eye contact with you and asks if you have 5 minutes to do a quick survey. 

Excuse
"I'm sorry but I'm too busy, I don't have enough time" 

Definition

Does it need a definition? Ain't nobody got time for that! 


Scenario


You're out shopping one weekend strolling from shop to shop until a stranger with a bunch of leaflets makes eye contact with you and asks if you have 5 minutes to do a quick survey and for some completely bizarre reason you agree to it! 

Excuse

"This is taking too long, sorry I'm too busy for this"  

Definition

Actually a very genuine response, the only way to shake these people off is to be a little blunt. Remember when they say 5 minutes they actually mean 30. I am speaking from experience. 





Scenario

You bump into a school friend or maybe an old colleague, you have general small talk and ask them what they have been up to over the last few years.

Excuse

"Ugh, I've just been so busy lately, you wouldn't believe it!" 

Definition

Okay, what a complete exaggerator. You actually shouldn't believe it, because it's totally not true. If you can refrain from rolling your eyes when they say this to you then credit where it is due my friend.  


Scenario

One of those seedy boys who ripped the piss out of you during your school years but likes all your pics on Facebook now since you got hot, messages you out of the blue. 

Excuse

"So sorry I didn't call/text you back. I was so busy I totally forgot"

Definition

Liar, liar pants on fire. You couldn't be arsed to get into a convo. It will only be the boring general chit chat anyway, so it's not like you're missing out. We've all done it.  




Scenario

You ask your mom to come outside and take some pictures of your outfit for your new blog post. 

Excuse

"Not now, I'm busy" 

Definition

Rude as hell. We all know she isn't busy, she just can't be arsed. But it's Momma, and you love her. So be nice to her. Also, she isn't that good at taking photos without getting too much sky or too much ground in it anyway. 


Scenario

You're browsing through Facebook and you see that person who is ALWAYS online whether they're liking pictures, writing statuses or tagging their mates in memes about wine. 

Excuse

"I'm too busy working on my grass to know if yours is greener"

Definition

This person is ONLY on Facebook to compare themselves to all their friends, acquaintances and enemies and to see what they are all up to. Deletes anyone that appears to have a more glam lifestyle. Insists they aren't jealous and bitter. 




Scenario
Another avid Facebook user pops up, this one constantly posts motivational quotes about how they're going to be rich and successful due to the constant 'grind' they put in.

Excuse

"Too busy doing me"  

Definition

This is to distract us all from the fact that they probably sleep in till 10am, and claim job seekers allowance which they spend on new tattoos to complete their sleeve. 


Scenario

You're going through Snapchat and you see one of those blacked out pictures that just have text on them with music playing in the background. It says:

Excuse

"I'm too busy living my life to worry about what people think of me" 

Definition

More than likely they have just gone through a break up where they probably got cheated. Definitely getting around a bit now, and definitely doesn't give a fuck. You go Glen Coco, get that body count up! 


Since I am basically an expert at decoding the dreaded "too busy" should you have any queries, then please do not hesitate to ask for my assistance! (Again, a joke)


Being a millennial has its perks, but mostly not.


We have it tough, I don't care what anyone says. Yeah we're lucky in the sense that we are old enough to know who the Venga Boys are and young enough to know how to work a computer. But all that aside, I don't think people realise that the expectations they have of us are completely unrealistic and the pressure is hard to deal with.



Denim Shirt - Jack&Jones (Mens)
T-Shirt - Asos
Skirt - Noisy May 
Boots - Dorothy Perkins 

Get a job, they say. It'll be easy they say. But boy, oh, boy, how wrong 'they' are. Yeah, we can all apply for jobs working in retail or a bar, but getting the job you really want is near impossible with the amount of competition there is out there and experience required. 

Once you actually do manage to somehow make it into the industry, I'm fairly certain you'll be starting at the bottom of the barrel and then we have the age old drama of your family expecting you to be promoted within the year to manager... It doesn't work like that these days Grandma, talk to me when you get 100 likes on your Instagram snaps.




The next step expected of us is to buy a house and get a mortgage at the tender age of 22, but how??? HOW?! How do we manage to raise the funds to pay rent, pay bills, buy food, live your life and manage to put enough away to save for a deposit. No siree, not gonna happen is it. Not when you have the burden of your student loan and every other debt you racked up during those 3 years of solid partying..er I mean "studying." 

What if you don't want to work in an office and buy a house just yet? There is so much to see in the world, and wanting to go travelling and see it all is a completely rational request. Your twenties are the years for yourself. If you make the decision to travel, I can guarantee there will be at least one person you encounter who will question when you are going to "get a job and grow up."

That moment might occur when you bump into an old family member and have to go through the excruciating pain that is small talk. It always goes along the lines of "So what are you up to now? Are you still studying? What do you study? Are you still a disappointment to your entire family?" 

And God help you should you say you never went to University. Even though it is a completely viable option these days and ya girl doesn't feel like getting into £27k worth a debt. Ya feel?




Say what you want, but millennials want more from life. I wouldn't define us as grafters per say, but we definitely dream big. I've never come across a more motivated group of people. The older generation didn't know any better and believed the only way through life was to get a job, get married and start a family and the younger generation all just want something for nothing. Of course, that doesn't stop us from scrolling through Instagram and seeing what our lives could have been if we were born into a wealthy family. But hey ho.

For some reason, no one takes us seriously. In my current job I constantly get "Oh you are far too young to be working here" and I immediately know they wont respect my position or opinion. But the sad fact is, that is applicable to so many aspects of our lives. I can't tell you how many Facebook posts I saw during the election saying how the youth of today fucked it all up because we voted for Jeremy Corbyn and how we didn't have a clue what we were voting for. Like we're complete idiots and aren't allowed to have a say. 

Another huge one being mental health. There has been a rise in mental health illnesses, and I'm not saying there is any correlation but it doesn't get acknowledged nearly as much as it should, and when it does it's normally negative and judgmental - "What do you have to be depressed about, you're like 20?"




What about how we all have to look like one of these beautiful Instagram godesses we see all over our feed? Everyone looks the same with their perfectly arched eyebrows and wings that could cut a bitch. But what does that mean for us? Are we deemed beautiful because we don't resemble the little person in our phone screens. Who decides that, and why does it fuck with our self esteem so much!?! 

It's not fair, and it's almost impossible to keep up. With social media being as fast pace as it is, this means fashion trends have been and gone with a blink of an eye. So don't even bother trying to save for that YSL clutch, because in a few weeks there'll be a new Gucci purse all are obsessed with. The same can be said for make up, it's exhausting. We get paid so little, and we spend so much on new products for them to release something better a few weeks later. 




Speaking of money, I never seem to have any? I don't know what the hell it goes on but by the end of the month I'm left with very little to go into that savings pot we talked about earlier. I'm not sure why it's acceptable to pay people so little, for such hard work - at least that's the case where I work... I hope they don't see this and sack me lol.

You've gotta work full time if you want to sustain a good standard of living. We all have to do it, I have no gripes with that. But finding that work/life balance is difficult. You work 9-5, Monday - Friday, so when do you have time to socialise or go shopping etc? You only have the weekend and evenings, but you can't do too much in the week because you have to be in work at 9 again the next day. That's only your schedule; your friends won't work the same hours as you so trying to find a time suitable for you all can sometimes be impossible. When you do find a time you're all free, someone will make an excuse to cancel because Great British Bake Off is starting and we're all introverted af. 




Get a job, get married, have a baby. I know that is what is expected of us, but why is there such a hurry? Why is that the process we have to follow? There is no rush to find a partner and settle down and the constant "So do you have a boyfriend yet?" is getting boring. Yes, meeting the love of your life at such a young age is a beautiful love story, but if you don't and end up rushing into it you could potentially miss out experiencing so much in life.

So there we have it. I'm sure that isn't all there is, and if you're a millennial reading this, I know you'll get it. If you're not, maybe you'll have some insight into what we are and what we are about. It ain't easy! 



What are some of your millennial gripes?


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